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Dear Claudia,
Omq-I don’t know how to start. Well okay, I have a bf and I’ve been with him for 7 months. We were doing great till now, when we just started having problems. He is a very jealous and an insecure person. He gets really mad when we don’t spend time together, but it’s because either I’m in school or working. I’ve told him I can’t do everything at the same time and I’m busy. He doesn’t understand because he does not go to school or work. He sometimes doesn’t want me to go to school work, so we can be together. I can’t always be with him because school and work are my first priorities right now. Another thing, I met a guy a couple of months ago and he is a very good friend. He understands what I’m going through and has been there more than my bf. I really don’t know anymore. I do love my bf, but I feel like I’m having feelings for my friend. Oh almost forgot to say, my bf and my friend are Enemies.
I REALLY NEED HELP!!!
ADVICE PLEASE
Comment by boothanqq — 2009/11/05 @ 11:49 pm
Dear boothanqq:
When having a relationship (partner) you are suppose to feel support and trust, as it comes from him to you and from you to him. You’ve been together for a while and I’m sure it’s time for you guys to start feeling confident about each other. I believe your telling me this because he probably thinks your cheating on him or he doesn’t like you talking to your friends (guy friends). It doesn’t really matter if their enemies or not, he is your friend not his. Even though sometimes relationships work out better if your partner knows your friends and you know his friends. Also, you should really think about what he’s doing because from what you are telling me, he might be a little selfish. He’s not thinking about what’s good for you, his just thinking about you leaving him out of your life.
Now, if your talking to someone else, and by this I mean talking about being more than friends, you should really think about it because sometimes love gets tricky. Maybe you are starting to have feelings for this other guy because you can’t find this with your lover. But like I said before, if you’re having a serious relationship and you think he is that one, you should really talk about this with your sweaty. Remember communication, trust, support and love are the first things you’re looking for in a man.
Comment by chernandez — 2009/11/09 @ 7:42 pm
Hey Claudia:
Well, bad news my boyfriend and I broke up. I couldn’t take it no more. I really tried fixing this between us so that we could be happy with no problems but it was just too much. Now he is realizing everything and that he f**d up. He keeps calling me, and even going to my house to look for me. He says that I don’t care what he feels or anything. I do care, but I have to think for my self first for my own good. I truly don’t deserve this. I know I could get a better guy. I don’t know what else to do so he can stop looking for me. He really means a lot to me but all I can do is be his friend but he doesn’t want that.
WHAT ELSE CAN I DO?? I DON’T WANT TO HURT HIM OR MY SELF.
Comment by boothanq — 2009/11/09 @ 11:31 pm
Dear boothanq:
I’m really sorry about what happened between you and your boyfriend. But things happen for a reason. It seems like you were not feeling very good about being with him anymore. It’s obvious that one of you gave up. You need to try and talk to him and make him understand that things were not working out. See if you can be friends. If he continues to go to your house uninvited than he is stalking you. He has an issue. I believe you made a good decision. It’s the best for you guys. At this time you shouldn’t be stressing out about this kind of stuff. You’re too young.
Hope this helps.
-Claudia:)
Comment by chernandez — 2009/11/10 @ 8:11 pm
DEAR CLAUDIA,
THIS GUY AND ME HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR A LONG TIME BUT PEOPLE KEEP TELLING HIM LIES ABOUT ME THAT AREN’T TRUE. AFTER ALL THE TALKING BEHIND MY BACK, WE BROKE UP. I JUST GOT BACK WITH HIM LAST WEEK. I DONT KNOW WHAT I’LL DO IF I LOSE HIM AGAIN. WHAT SHOULD I DOOOOOOO! I REALLLY REALLLLLY LOVE HIM. HE IS THE MOST PRECIOUS THING IN MY LIFE. WHAT SHOULD I DO???????
HELPPPP MEEEEEE
Comment by TWINKY — 2009/11/10 @ 10:33 pm
Dear Claudia:
I’ve been together with my girlfriend for close to 5 months. It was great for the first month, and some what of the second, but then all of a sudden so many problems hit me in the face. I over reacted. My girlfriend has some trouble paying attention and gets distracted easily and forgets really easily. She gets on my nerves she doesn’t pay attention to my emotions enough. It gets on my nerves. We are ok for now till another problem comes in.
Do I deserve better???????????
Comment by AFlavorFullPanda — 2009/11/10 @ 10:55 pm
hey claudia
Well it’s been 2 and a half months since my ex and I broke up. I’ve been good since, I’m actually happy. We stopped talking for couple of weeks after I told him I really didn’t want to know anything about him. I’ve currrently moved on and have a boyfriend. We are good so far. But my ex came back into the picture again. I tried ignoring him for the reason I don’t want my boyfriend and I to have problems. Well, my ex started calling me and even showing up at my house without me knowing. He really thinks we will getting back together were not. It bothers me that he keeps looking for me. I really don’t know what to do concerning him anymore. I tried telling him but I guess he really don’t get it. I really don’t want to have problems with the guy I’m with now. I don’t know what to do anymore. I really tried telling my ex we could only be friends. I need Help?? What else can I do?
Comment by boothanq — 2010/01/07 @ 6:35 pm
What does it mean if when you draw a heart you start with the left side??
Comment by SSM — 2010/01/11 @ 10:03 pm
Boothang:
Your situation seems to be getting serious. In that, your ex is not listening to your requests and that means he is not showing enough respect.
You most certainly need to let your parents know what is going on. You can also go to CIS health services and ask to talk with a counselor about it. Students can now get help even if they don’t have medical. The school has hired an additional counselor for all students.
You can also ask your parents to call the police on your behalf. It’s important for you to be safe! So if your ex continues to come around when you have so clearly asked him not to – you need to take action. Write back if you have questions.
xxxx00000
Comment by admin — 2010/01/13 @ 3:23 am
Hey Claudia I came back to the website to seei if you had responded and answered my question…..It seems that you haven’t could you please answer it.
-SSM-
pLEASE AND tHANK yOU!!!!
Comment by SSM — 2010/01/15 @ 9:54 pm
Dear SSM:
I’m really sorry i took that long to reply back, but i just came back from my vacation. . .anyways about your question. i need more information. where did you get that from?
Comment by chernandez — 2010/01/16 @ 12:53 am
Well, oK
i got it randomly… I asked some ppl they too were clueless…. I thought that maybe you could answer it….
Comment by SSM — 2010/01/18 @ 5:22 am
Dear SSM:
Well, from my point of view since it’s a heart, I believe it has something to do with love. I think it means, if you are going to start a relationship you should start by caring for the other person, rather than thinking of yourself.
Comment by chernandez — 2010/01/21 @ 7:04 pm
Thank You!!
Comment by SSM — 2010/01/22 @ 9:46 pm
Dear Claudia:
I went out with a guy who I waited for almost three years, when he finally got to know me and started liking me, we went out. Our relationship was so nice and perfect. I loved him a lot, he was not cute, but to me he meant everything. I loved his personality and he was super sweet. When I was ready to give him everything-he dumped me. It’s been awhile now, but I’ve met new people. I can’t stop loving him. He told me he didn’t want to break up, but he saw our relationship as a good and a bad thing. He wanted to get to know other people and I dont know what happened. Everybody told me that he loved me. I just don’t know what happend? I want him. I don’t want anybody else. What should i do?
Comment by nelly — 2010/02/03 @ 1:29 am
Hey Claudia:
So I have a long story! But I’m going to make it short.
Do you think it ’s wrong to like a guy but at the same time be with his brother? He also had something with my closest friend ever. And a week ago I went to a Quinceanera and we were dancing and he just left me dancing to go dance with other girls. He likes me and I like him but I don’t know what to do!
I NEED HELP A.S.A.P!!
lOveee;qordaa
Comment by qordaa — 2010/02/03 @ 10:15 pm
Hi love the page!!…good advice…
Comment by qordaa — 2010/02/04 @ 9:53 pm
Dear Nelly:
It’s actually a good thing that you guys got to know each other. He wants to meet new people? I think at this age it’s a really good thing and I’m glad you decided to move on. On the other hand, I really believe this guy does not like you as much as you like him. So you really should try to talk to him and tell him how you feel because he might not feel the same way as you feel for him, relationships are based and what you guys say to each other.
Claudiaaaa
Comment by chernandez — 2010/02/10 @ 6:54 pm
Dear Gorda:
Well it is-wrong. This is a potential psychological mess; do you feel you are with his brother because he’s not paying enough attention to how you feel about him?
This guy seems like he’s the “I can have all the girls I want!” type of guy, and you should really think about how would you feel if you find out he doesn’t like you back.
And think about it– if he really liked you he wouldn’t want to go with other girls.
So just make sure he likes you back. Don’t rush things and you’ll know if he is not the one. There is always going to be someone out there for you.
Comment by chernandez — 2010/02/10 @ 7:01 pm
Dear Claudia:
Last year I went out with this one guy that I had liked since a year ago. I was very happy that we had the chance to be together. The only problem is that we have a really long distance, and that’s the reason why he broke up with me. Not so long ago I asked him if he still felt the same. he said that he would love to give me another chance but the only thing that was holding him back and he thinks that wouldn’t let it work out was our distance. They say distance shouldn’t come in between, but for him he just can’t keep up with it. I really love this guy and I think he’s the ONE I want to be with forever. I know am too young to be thinking about this but he’s just the only guy I think about I try to move on and get to know other guys too but I always end up coming back to him. The first day I met him I started to like him and ever since my feelings have just gotten stronger as time goes by. This has been going on for 3 years already. By the time I graduate I am moving over there so I can be close to him and maybe when we can try it again. What should I do? Do I stay with this feeling and wait till we can be together again or do I just forget him?
Comment by jollyrancher — 2010/03/03 @ 7:21 pm
k7uv4k Excellent article, I will take note. Many thanks for the story!
Comment by Cialis — 2010/03/10 @ 1:55 am
Dear Claudia
Ok, so I finally got my ex off my back and omg I feel so relieved! So that’s one thing but seems like guy problems never end! Ugh I just hate the situation i’m in right now. Well I’ve had been with my new boyfriend for about 4 months now and things really started to get off guard. For the last couple of last months its been pretty bad for us his been hearing a lot of things bout me which are NOT true, well just once that he kind of caught me texting a guy and saying “boo” but after that I stopped talking to that guy to prevent problems between us. So that’s that, second thing one day he borrowed my phone for like two weeks because he didn’t had one. So one day he was with me and I went through the phone and I seen a couple of things that I didn’t like but I never said nothing to him I just ignore it and kept it to my self. So for the last 2 months I been hearing a lot of things and i’m actually the type of person that don’t believe or care what people got to say but this time is different I don’t know what to believe anymore because I do have a feeling everything they saying is true! I love this guy but I don’t deserve this I know I messed up to but for him to go this far and just hurt me like this ain’t fair! PLEASE HELP!!! I’m so confused about things!
Comment by boothanq — 2010/03/12 @ 8:00 pm
Dear Jollyrancher:
So when there is long distance in a relationship there has to be trust and of course both of you have to approve being far apart from each other, If he is telling you that it’s not going to work out then maybe you should wait. You said you are going to move close to him, and that’s cool, until then you should let destiny take you where it wants to take you, sometimes love can be tricky and it might make you feel this weird desperate feeling of not being loved by the person you love but as always time has the power to decide, might take longer, remember this is your life.
Comment by chernandez — 2010/03/12 @ 11:41 pm
Hey Claudia:
Well I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 2 months and lately things have gone bad. I just want know if it will get better or if I should let it go or work it out. He acts like he doesn’t care about me or love me anymore. I’m not sure. Sometimes when I get into arguments with other people he defends them over me- even though they did something real ***** up to me. Even his friends tell me I’m to much for him, that I’m too pretty and to0 smart for him. I have had so many guys come up to me and say “Girl that boy is an **** to you” but I can’t help loving him. I’m just really confused. My cousin tells me it would be good to meet new people- that I can’t waste all my high school years with just one guy and that meeting new people is pretty healthy sometimes! There’s this one friend of both of us, but we are not friends anymore. He calls her cute nicknames and me-the girlfriend isn’t even treated like that! They say i’m doing to much. What do you think is right – that he calls her cute nicknames and that she has sent him pics of her? And when she does his homework sometimes he thanks her so much, but when I do it for him he is really mean. Like, oh look at your writing that just makes me feel so bad because I’m his girlfriend not her. I’m sorry this a really long story but I mean its been two years!!~!
Comment by qorda14 — 2010/05/06 @ 6:35 pm
Dear gorda14:
Well, it is long term relationship. I understand you must have too many things that you do not understand but everything has an explanation. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, what you think about the way he is acting. Be direct and if he really loves you, he will tell you how he feels. A relationship is about two people and hard times can make both of you fight. If you have already told him what you think, and how you feel, maybe he is not the person for you. But don’t feel bad you’re young, pretty, and smart. You have your whole life ahead of you and wasting it feeling bad about “love” it’s just not worth it. You’re only young once in a lifetime and you have to live it to the fullest. It might hurt you at the beginning, but I assure you that after awhile, after you realize that you are better without him, you’re just going to laugh about it. Also, sometimes girls are in love with the thought of being in love and they really don’t look at the person they are with. They just want to have a longterm realationship so bad that they put up with bad behavior. And maybe, just maybe you will soon wonder why you felt so bad in the first place. =D.
-Never forget but learn how to live with the memory.
PS. That friend of yours needs to back off, and your boyfriend needs to give you your place.
Comment by chernandez — 2010/05/06 @ 11:19 pm
i just really want to knoe if im enrolled or not in Rh
Comment by Jayy — 2010/08/10 @ 11:02 pm
Dear Jayy:
I would suggest that you contact the school at (510)237-8770 [MON-FRI] or contact the WCCUSD to check whether or not you are enrolled.
Comment by scalderon — 2010/08/11 @ 4:43 am
thank you so much . Scalderon .
Comment by Jayy — 2010/08/13 @ 9:25 pm
umm . key well .
i tried going online to contact WCCUSD
but it wont let me .
so can i just go to the orientation
and register there . or what ? please help!!
Comment by Jayy — 2010/08/15 @ 11:11 pm